Second-Bite Choice

Some things have to be tasted twice to get their full flavor.  The same can apply to your choices.  Have you ever had the experience of making a choice but, after a little while, the choice doesn’t seem as good as it did when you made it?  It is like taking a first bite of something and then experiencing a strange aftertaste.

A while ago, I moved to Toronto to be with my boyfriend and his children.  At first, I was very excited and enthusiastic .  Then I started noticing myself being slightly irritated with everything. Nothing seemed to fit or satisfy me.  My move happened in late December when the streets of Toronto are covered with snow and the cold keeps people hidden in their homes.  I left sunny Dallas, my friends and all things familiar , and found myself lost and socially “isolated.”  My feelings were mixed and my energy conflicted.  My heart wanted to be in Toronto, but my body wanted to be in warm, familiar Dallas … while my head didn’t know what to think.  Then I took a second bite into my original choice to move.  This time it included the city and all its advantages.

Re-choosing is empowering.  Marcus Buckingam in his book  “First Break All The Rules” relates that people who are happily married for a long time are those who continually re-choose their partners.  They are not counting good against bad in a person, but looking at other people and always re-making the original choice, thereby reinforcing the satisfaction of making a good choice.  If you find yourself in situations in which your original choice does not taste as good as it used to, don’t doubt your selection – try a second bite.